„You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something - your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.“
– Steve Jobs
During my studies, I had and still have the opportunity to be part of amazing mentoring programs. When I started my Ph.D. I decided to give something back and became a mentor myself. During the sessions with my mentees, I realized how much knowledge I had willingly (and unwillingly) acquired during the past years. I realized that sharing my experiences with other students helped them (and me). It gave me an opportunity to reflect, understand and inspired me to find answers.
I am drinking way too much coffee! I am thinking, reading, writing, and discussing ideas. This is basically what working on a Ph.D. feels like. :)
To my mind, these are the most important topics. Not only during your study times but also in life. To master productivity and personal growth, be happy and to have a healthy mindset will fundamentally improve your life. Yet, these aspects are the most difficult to acquire at the same time because nothing of this "just happens"!
Not many of us are born with inexhaustible motivation and clear focus what their life should look like. You rather have to find and fight your way. You don’t grow personally just by growing older. You have to actively challenge and develop yourself. We start to study in the hope that it makes us more successful and happier in life. That it might help us to grow and develop ourselves.
Studying won’t lead per se to personal development or make your smart or successful. You might know more afterward but it is questionable, whether that really matters. Most of what really matters is something you don’t learn in a lecture hall.
You are a student or a young professional? You wish you could enjoy (university) life and be productive? Do you want your anxiousness and insecurities to vanish? Do you want to finally live up to your full potential? Then you have come to the right place. This blog is for you!
Making decisions is hard. Making the “right” decisions is even harder. Making the "right" decisions, knowing that these decisions will pave your future path appears like nothing but a burden. How should you even make these important decisions when you don’t really know who you are and what a future you want for yourself?
This situation is what we are confronted with in our late teens and twenties. Parents, grandparents, and society expect us to magically have a plan, follow it straight and effortlessly and be happy all along. That is not how this works. That is not how any of this works... Sadly, life does not wait until we are ready to face these important issues. It just throws them into our face, like cake in a slapstick movie.
This is our time. This is our time to make mistakes. To learn from our mistakes. Overall, to make experiences and grow. To get to know ourselves. To find our way through right and wrong decisions.
You could believe - like Steve Jobs - that everything will magically work out. Which somehow it will. However, I would have wished for some orientation. I am not really that wait-patiently-and-pray-type of person...
Navigating through the jungle of expectations, your personal needs, desires, and wishes is a major life challenge. A challenge you can face on your own. However, I guess it is more fun to face it alongside others. You are not alone with your fears, doubts, and insecurities. At the same time, you are not alone with your wishes, dreams, and plans. So, you don’t need to make all mistakes, decisions, and major life steps on our own.
In this blog, I reflect on many of the questions and issues I and people around me have faced and are currently facing. Questions you might face, too. Hope you find some thought-provoking ideas and use the opportunity to exchange with other like-minded people in the comments. Let’s make the most of the (supposedly) best time of your life!
Imagine you meet yourself. The self you were a year, three years, five years ago. What would you tell yourself? Would you give yourself a lot of advice what to do and what not? Would you tell yourself to be patient? Would you cheer yourself up? Would you tell yourself "I am here" and "you are not alone"? These would be the things I would tell my past self.
Your future-self has already connected your lifes puzzle pieces and dots. It knows what worked and what did not. Your future-self looks back on your past and has lived your pasts future. Now imagine you would be able to connect your individual life dots earlier? Avoid mistakes that lead you to a dead-end? Or do things earlier you desperately need to do?
You would be able to sneak into your future. You would be given the opportunity to design your life the way you want and need it. However, a precondition to that would be to understand who you are, what you want, and how you get it. Sometimes a mentor, or a friend, or even a stranger can say the things you need to hear at the time you need to hear them. But while we are studying, we are often left alone. We have friends and peers, that might be as clueless as we. Parents, who studied in a past century. Professors and lecturers with no time and capacity to care for us and help us find our way. With this blog, I hope to help you with your personal growths and maybe enable you to connect the dots of your life a little bit earlier.
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„You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something - your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.“
– Steve Jobs